I don’t like conflicts. One of the reasons why I’m quiet most of the time is: I don’t want to get into interpersonal conflicts. However, from my own experience, even the silence may cause conflicts.
Let me share one very sensitive hypothetical situation.
Jane Doe has been good friend with John Doer for more than 4 decades. Now, Jane has severe financial problem and after a week of consideration, she wants to borrow some money from John, who is known as the richest man in Doers Town. However, John rejected to give a helping hand, saying that he has no immediate cash in hand.
Jane is deeply hurt by the fact that John rejected her request for help when he had been generously lending money to other people for past 5 decades and it was her first time asking for help. She then starts to avoid John.
The truth is that due to recent economic downfall, John was also suffering from severe financial problem. The price of his stocks dropped by 99.9% and his business was on the verge of bankruptcy. He had not been able to pay his workers for 2 months now and they have gone into strike. He does not want to let anyone else know about this problem as it might drag his pride down
Here’s a question: How should they resolve this problem so that their relationship can return to normal?